Sometime ago, i had a lunch with my uni church guy friends. The main agenda of the lunch centered on the marriage preparations of our friend. He will be married in a month's time. In our conversation, I learnt that his bride (also a christian) has placed him on a strict diet. The reason given by the bride was : "I want you (the Groom) to look good and handsome on that day." She also bought him a portable small electronic pace-meter device where the groom must clip it on his belt everyday. The pace-meter measures the number of paces (aka footsteps) the wearer makes in a day. The bride has instructed him that he must hit at least 10,000 paces (footsteps) a day. Among other things, the Groom had been feeding merely on salads.
I am quite displeased with this legalistic mindset of the bride. No doubt i agree that marriage dinner is once in a lifetime and the couple involved should look good. But why all the legalistic restrictions?? So lets say.. the Groom refuses to go on diet. Will the bride hence not marry him? Is the bride that superficial? So if the Groom puts on say 10kg on the actual wedding day, will we have a run-away bride? Since when did the exchange of matrimony vows become so legalistic and SUPERFICIAL?
Since when did it also become the Bridegroom's job to distribute the wedding invitation cards to the Bride's friends while the Bride is away doing some other things? Why pamper the Bride so much? Is the Bridegroom in effect already an slave for the Bride?
I guess when you are so deeply in love, you tend to lose your position and compromise. But compromise to what extend? If you do not compromise, you will be seen as a male chauvanistic pig. If you do compromise too much, you will be seen as hen-pecked and well.. a slave? Very complicated issues here. Just for you to think out loud. How far will you go to compromise for your other half.. BEFORE and AFTER marriage?
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